life

You don’t “understand” until you’ve answered the question

In my science-related endeavours, there’s been one thing that has been absolutely true. I might think I understand, but I won’t, not really, not until I’m actually able to answer the question. Back in school, I’d listen to my teacher who was speaking in front and I’d think to myself, “Ok, I understand that”, and then zone out and read a different book instead. I found out very quickly that I was wrong.  After half an hour, she would tell us to pull out our exercise books and do some questions. That’s when you’d see me looking back at the textbook, trying to figure things out.

That little bit extra…

In physics, and in math especially, you require an extra skill besides just “understanding” to fully understand something. In debating, I never faced this problem. When I joined debating in my undergraduate days, it was a simple process of listening to something in a debate and understanding it. And using that understanding, you could pretty much explain and debate the next time. But the sciences require an extra skill. The skill to know if the answer is reasonable.

This is an odd thing to say, but I’m sure it’s true. When you take up law or economics or political science (themes debated heavily in varsity tournaments), you’re bound by reality. There are no moments when you would ever think of a person being able to float, or walk through a brick wall. The hard sciences are slightly different. In order to understand the universe, we have to look at it on a different scale, either very big (physics and cosmology) or very small (biology, physics and chemistry). It’s beyond a human to properly understand those concepts so we do it the only way we can. We cheat.

How do we cheat?

We cheat by not imagining everything at once. We forget the magnetic fields and the sunlight and whether there’s a brick wall in our way and just look at the muscles moving in a person’s leg. Does it matter if he’s walking off a cliff? Nope. We cheat by thinking of tiny atoms where you can apply “energy” to it and it will move faster and faster, without ever asking, “what energy is this”? We cheat by making things so abstract, that they lose their link to reality. So what happens is a situation where you make up a question about a boy running 200 meters in 5 seconds. Impossible, I know, but there you go.

And this is why answering questions are so important. It lets you practice questions and get a feel of their limits. What numbers are reasonable? How should the calculations look half-way through? What are those numbers you’re calculating?

I don’t have to calculate! That’s what my calculator is for!

In this day and age, we have powerful calculators and computers to do the dirty work for us. When I say “calculating”, I don’t mean adding and subtracting. Calculating is about understanding the numbers you’ve put on the paper and knowing what they represent. If you don’t know what the numbers mean, you’ll never be able to use them at the right place and in the right way to make meaning out of things.

Taking that previous example of a boy running 200 meters in 5 seconds. That’s a real question I did. In the middle of my calculations I had the number 200 and 5 and I was supposed to calculate speed. So I divided 200/5 and got the answer as 40. 40 meters per second. Ok, no big deal right? Then suddenly I looked back at the question and realized what I was calculating. This wasn’t a car or airplane moving at high speeds. This was a simple boy. And somehow he was moving over 200 meters in 5 seconds! 40 m/s! That’s crazy. And most of the time I wouldn’t even realize what I was calculating because it’s been abstracted so much. I later found out I messed up a step and it was supposed to be 200 meters over 80 seconds. Much more reasonable.

Answering the question

So what happens once you’ve “answered the question”? It means that you took the question, understood the meaning of it, were able to extract the relevant numbers, and use them appropriately in the calculation of the answer. This SHOULD mean that you truly understand. Congratulations.

Hold on…

Wait a second, now that I think about it, it applies in life too. There are so many concepts and quotes that are spouted all the time. But we never follow them even when we “understand” them. Worse, we don’t follow them even when we know them to be true.

Life lessons you’ve heard before:

  1. Be good to your parents
  2. It’s easier to take care of things on time (Don’t wait till the last minute)
  3. Love what you have
  4. There is nothing to hold you back, except yourself (Be confident)
  5. Know what you want
  6. Sometimes you have to say no (Be assertive)
  7. Ask questions
  8. Your health is your life (Take care of your health!!!)
  9. If you never act, you will never know (Take risks sometimes)
  10. It doesn’t matter how much you know unless you can explain it (Learn to speak well)

Unfortunately, a lot of these things we only know intellectually. We think we understand them, but we don’t really. It’s only when, one day long after you first heard it, something big happens to you and you go, “Oh wow, my mom was right”. That’s the moment you really understand the importance of that life lesson. But some people will forget it again afterwards. They’ll have a brief flash of understanding, then they’ll just forget again. It’s only when you apply it that you can truly be counted as having learnt the lesson.

So don’t just listen to all that excellent advice your parents have given you. They love you, you know? “Answer the question” and apply these life lessons.

Then, and only then, will you “understand” life.

The paradox of choice

Credit: Main ideas are from Barry Schwartz’s TED video

We all want more choice in our lives, more opportunities. Unfortunately choice has a confusing paradox; When you have a lot MORE choice, you become LESS happy.

Crazy ain’t it?

Decision Paralysis

When you have more than about 7 choices, you start getting lost. Which choice is better? Will you have to try each choice to see which is best?

What happens then is that you’re paralyzed and can’t make a decision until you “get all the information”.

Not making a decision means not making  a choice that could be making your life better. You become LESS happy.

Opportunity Costs

In the old days, there would only be 1 type of jeans. If you wanted to buy one, that was the only one. Nowadays, you walk into a store and see 100 different kinds. So now you just have to try each one to get the best.

Imagine 2 stores. One only has 3 types of jeans. The other has 100 types of jeans.

You waste sooooo much more time trying 100 jeans than just 3 jeans. Therefore, you won’t ever try out all 100 jeans.

When you finally DO pick one of those jeans out of 3, you can choose the best one. When you choose out of 100, you might only try on 10 pairs. So you lose out (opportunity cost) on 90 types!!

You therefore become LESS happy because instead of gaining on one pair of jeans, you’ve lost out on 90 pairs. Because any of those 90 pairs could have been better than the pair you just tried on.

And the problem duplicates itself when buying cars, or houses, or even just choosing what to do with your life. When you have SOOO many more options, life becomes tougher, because it becomes harder to know if the choice you take is the best.

Then what should I do?

So what do you do? Stay tuned for my next post; “Satisficing: Why it’s good enough”

Why conflict is good.

I’m not entirely sure why people think conflict and wars are inherently bad. I agree that they’re not entirely pleasant most times, but it doesn’t mean that their nature is bad.

Conflict is often necessary

Conflict is necessary because humans will never see eye to eye with each other perfectly. It is crazy to assume that we will all want the same thing. Agreed? Therefore, we’ve got to come together and negotiate something that would be acceptable to all parties. The dictionary term for this negotiation where each party wants different things is “conflict”.

If you don’t want conflict you can avoid it, but it generally means that you’re letting the other person have his way. That’s fine when the matter is a small one, like when someone takes your pen without asking you. It’s not fine when it’s something bigger like trying to hurt you or humiliate you. This would be a situation where I would advise for you to engage in conflict, and not to shy away.

Levels of conflict

Conflict has many levels. It can mean verbal conflict which includes calm discussions at a negotiation table or shouting matches between the bedroom and the kitchen. It can also mean physical conflict where you punch the lights out of someone (or he punches your lights out).

Either way, conflict is good. It settles disagreements. And humans will always have disagreements. The only real problem I see in conflict is the problem of calibration.

Calibrating your response

Any disagreement should see the appropriate response of conflict from you. Borrowing your pen without asking might just require a few soft words of warning. A person trying to rip off you might require a little yelling. A person trying to hurt you would probably require a bit of hurting back.

A group of people trying to jump you in a dark alley would probably best be responded with a baseball bat and the willingness to beat them half to death. Although some people would just say to me, “Violence breeds violence. Just respond with peace.”

Respond to conflict with peace?

I feel that this is complete bullshit. You can sit there while someone is pounding your face in. Or hurting your family. Or insulting your faith. I believe in having a bit of conflict. Even in marriage you’ll have conflict with your spouse. It’s impossible to agree 100% with each other. Ideally you’d engage in a little conflict and work things out. Or you could say “OK, honey” and grow a seed of anger deep inside.

Embracing conflict

If conflict comes to you, don’t avoid it, embrace it. Use it to ensure that your side is heard. Don’t run away from it. If someone is pissed off at you, don’t avoid them, go and meet them (unless you pissed of a Jedi. Don’t mess with Jedi).

However, all things said, conflict is still unpleasant for you and the other party. So do yourself a favour. If conflict comes to you, embrace it. But don’t go looking for it. After all, why would you WANT to make your wife/family/friends pissed off at you?